Last week someone at work asked me if I was ever in a bad mood. This is not the first time that I've been asked this. It is asked in different ways, but it is always the same question. I am asked, "are you ever in a bad mood?" or "do you ever get angry?" The answer to these questions are:
- yes, sometimes I'm in a bad mood
- yes, I do get angry now and then
- no, I am not always happy, though I would say that I always choose to be happy
Most of the time, the answer is followed by, "How do you do it?" Well, the answer is simple....maybe I'm just a laxy daisy type who doesn't sweat the small stuff....but happiness is really just a way of life that I have chosen. It helps that I have an amazing family, wonderful kids, a man who genuinely loves me for who I am. I also have many friends who add richness to my life. But like everyone, I sometimes have not so great days, and I've had problems like everyone else. But here's a tip : the past is the past. Don't let it be indicative of the present. When things aren't going well, do not extrapolate and assume the next day will be the same. Ironically, this is is not often true when we are happy. It's much easier to live in the "present" when we are experiencing joy. But when we are afraid, sad or experiencing tough times it's so common to heap on more pain by assuming the next day will be the same as today. This is cyclic and a self-fulfilling prophecy. The secret is to move on past the fear, the sadness, the loneliness. What was said and what was felt is over. Treat everyday like a new day. Otherwise you will continue to look at each day through the same sad lens and you will continue to justify being sad. So if you think you can't be happy, think again. Life is what you make it, so go out there and make a happy life! You are the creator of your own life, and you and you alone decide if you want to be happy or not. Choosing happy is my choice.
In my last post, I promised pics of New Year's, so here they are:
As in New Year's past, we had our party at a local hotel. Then we played games and danced till midnight when we rang in 2015 together. We all booked rooms at the hotel so that we didn't have to drive anywhere after and then the next day we all had breakfast together again at the hotel.
It's a yearly tradition and one that we all look forward to. The kids enjoy this and they come down to breakfast, some of them still in their pajamas and they relive the night before with stories of who did what, and what happened that was funny, etc. It's a nice way to end one year and start the next -- as a family!
Now we move into mid-January -- back to school and work. Alyssa and I seem to have seamlessly adapted into our routine of getting up early, starting out with refrigerator oatmeal (to see the post about this oatmeal and to get the recipe click here) and then heading out together to tackle our respective days. I usually drive her to the bus loop and then I head off to work, which is just 5 minutes away. It works out quite well. Trevor is still away for work, having left for Alaska on January 5th. He comes home in another 10 days.
I have some new cards I made that I will post next time. I have yet to take pictures of them, but they will be posted soon! Have a great week ahead. Be happy!